How did you choose to read that phrase? Talk amongst yourselves. We’ll come back to that.
I once again gained a little bit of insight from my senior friends this week.
Although I’m convinced that he was aiming at Chet’s bad foot, Leon dropped his fork. More than once. Considering I was the only one in the vicinity not sitting on wheels, I walked over and picked up his fork each time. He thanked me. Chet mumbled, “Hmph. Must be nice,” implying that Leon was somehow being indulged in a service not offered to Chet.
*It should be noted that he did not test this theory by throwing his spoon, and for that we all were most grateful. What we were not grateful for was Ray’s declaration of independence from bladder control. More than once.
Anyway, as I wheeled Gram to her room, we passed a woman putting lotion on her mother’s aging hands. Gram scoffed and said, “Hmph. Must be nice.” Despite the fact that she gets regular manicures and more daily attention than most royal queens, good ol’ Mary was still “hmphing” about the luxuries afforded to those around her, those things she was obviously being intentionally deprived of.
While I understand the nature of their complaints is related most closely to boredom, they’re not the only ones who think they have it rough, or at least rougher than somebody else.
I’ll admit I fall prey to the “it must be nice” mentality at times. After all, it must be nice to be on vacation while I’m stuck at work. It must be nice to grow up in a family of wealth. It must be nice to not have to worry about this or get distracted by that.
But in all actuality, it does me no good. In my world—and evidently in the geriatric community of Chet, Leon and Mary—resentment gets me no closer to a vacation, inheriting wealth or being relieved of my burdens, all most likely relative in nature (no pun intended.)
The moral of the story is that you can be better or you can be bitter. Instead of resentment, appreciate the fact that you might just have a multitude of things that cause the less enlightened to “hmph” that “it must be nice” to be you.
Because while “it” must be nice to have those things I never seem to have, “I” must be nice and appreciate that most often, I already do.
How will you choose to read that phrase? Talk amongst yourselves.